Talk about who your daughter is instead of how she looks.
“Parents so often say ‘You look so pretty today,’ but don’t say things like, ‘You were such a good friend today,’ or ‘You handled that frustration well.’ It’s very useful to compliment girls on their assertiveness and even their anger with statements like, ‘You were brave to tell me how mad you were,’ ‘I like how you stand up for yourself,’ ‘You and I disagree and I respect your thinking,’ or ‘I never would have thought of that; you are so smart about these things.’ “
June 2013
Hi Anon,
You’re looking for the Desiderata. Here is a link to everything I have tagged Des, which should give you everything you need to know. I also just reblogged my reading of it. You are absolutely right—this poem has been in my parents’ kitchen my entire life, was in my apartment my year off, and is in the apartment I now share with my boyfriend. It sits over the kitchen table so that we can re-read it whenever we want.
I hope it resonates with you as much as it resonates with me.
-Alyssa
Desiderata- Max Ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Repeat after me: I am a goddess. My spirit is towering, my soul is mighty, my breasts are magnificent and my shoes are super fucking cute.
You know why women often say “nothing’s wrong” when something is definitely bothering them
It’s because men have been belittling, minimizing and mocking our emotions forever
And we are socialized to be as passive and undemanding and selfless as possible, and not to run any risk…
This is a repost of a letter in its entirety, from a friend of mine, Kira Andry. If you are a part of the queer, sex+ community in the GTA, this is some information you may need to know to make an informed decision about attending and participating in the ‘I’d Tap That’ events and community.
**Trigger Warning: Rape culture, misogyny, victim-shame/blame, etc**
lyssamae replied to your post: Yes I am a 30 year old woman who just RAN to the…
ARE THEY PRETTY. IF THEY ARE PRETTY, OGLE FROM BEDROOM WINDOWS. IF THEY GET TOO CLOSE, HIDE. IF THEY GET SWEATY, OFFER THEM ICED TEA TO LOOK AT THEIR PRETTINESS. DON’T GET TOO CLOSE CAUSE THEY PROBABLY SMELL. IF NOT PRETTY, ABORT MISSION.
NOT PRETTY! tRUST ME, IF PRETTY THEY WOULD BE WELCOME TO MY HOUSE, BEDROOM, AND VAGINA AT ANY TIME.
EW NO THAT’S AWFUL
I FULLY SUPPORT YOUR HIDING.
I HIDE FROM NOT PRETTY, INFERIOR MEN, TOO.
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Here’s the page where you can report the project, even though it won’t do any good.
Here’s Kickstarter’s Twitter feed, to which you can send a message, which also won’t do any good.
Thanks for trying, though.
Well, shit.
Edit: Does anyone know, if the reports came in before the project was finished, is there a chance it would still be shut down? I would imagine it would take a little while for kickstarter to evaluate the situation.
lol i gotta laugh to keep from crying LOL poc -myself included- out here trying to start businesses and help people and can’t even register a blip on the radar, but a rape manual can get funded? LOL *pulls hair out*
Bolded for emphasis. >:{
Inorite? Here I am trying to raise money to put on a play and NOT creating a How to Rape manual, and it’s like pulling teeth.
stillofthesilence replied to your post: Things I have done today:
This is me today: 28.media.tumblr.com/tum…
Yes basically. (Though, the updated list would include further domestication: I fixed 3 more pairs of pants today (that’s 6 total so far) and have 5 more to go.)
Science says: The body is a machine.
Advertising says: The body is a business.
The body says: I am a fiesta.” —Eduardo Galeano (via mamagrae)
- Ate a Reeses Klondike.
- Emailed the SERV advocate for Camden county to register for the sexual assault advocate/volunteer training
- Emailed the little jewelry studio where Angela & Aaron got their wedding bands and with which I absolutely fell in love (open studio, friendly people, cool shit) to see if they have any positions open
- Looked for other jobs, found none.
Things I have not done today:
- Brushed my hair
- Everything else on my to-do list.
I am SO FAR BEHIND ON TUMBLR ALYSSA YOU HAVE _NO_ ~IDEA~ *cries*
IT’S OKAY MELODY I FORGIVE YOU.
IIR, you have a pair of like thigh high boots? If yes then yes those. WOE FOR MEMBERSHIP :( I send hugs of sympathy and understanding. ♥
MELODY THAT WAS FOUR DAYS AGO but i appreciate your input. :)