I am so pissed off by that video there are not words.
Me too. Meeeee tooooo. Ugh.
Just because you’re 15 doesn’t mean you don’t have anything worthwhile to say or any meaningful experiences in your life. Don’t ever let someone invalidate something you have to say simply because you’re “too young to understand”. That’s a ton of bull.
Also, I’m really happy that you have a more than basic understanding of this subject. I hope you have the courage to defend your stance when you come under fire for being “too sensitive”. It’s something I know I couldn’t do when I was 15. They say we’re most impressionable when we’re young; hopefully when you tell people why they’re wrong in saying something they’ll learn from it.
The more people who understand that no matter what the survivor was doing/wearing/eating/breathing when the attack happened, it is never her (or his, or whichever pronoun the survivor identifies with) fault, the better. Thanks for doing your part!
I was really confused at first, but I understand now. Thanks for writing it! It seriously is everything I’ve been trying to coherently iterate for ever, and I appreciate that someone else thinks the same way! <3
dear rape apologists/ignorant assholes in general,
rape is not, was not, nor will it ever be funny. it is not possible to “rape” someone at halo, ping-pong, or any other competition. women (and MEN) who are raped were not “asking for it” via their clothing, body language, or any other made-up bullshit you would use to justify a rapists’ actions. similarly, if a female says no to you at any time, this does not mean: yes, keep going; she is a fucking tease; or you should keep going anyway. surprising as it may be, women actually have a right to their own bodies, just as they have the right to vote.
men who rape are not “just being boys” and women who have the inner strength to try to bring their rapists to justice are not crazy, vengeful bitches or sluts who regret having sex. rape is not ingrained in the psyche of men; it is not an instinct they must constantly fight. a man who rapes is searching for a means of dominating a woman. he rapes in search of power, not sexual fulfillment.
a common sentiment expressed by rape apologists begins with “what if.” what if this man is innocent? do you really want to ruin an innocent man’s life by putting him in jail for a crime that isn’t such a big deal anyway? this is wrong. imagine the worst possible physical, emotional, anything-al violation you could possibly dream up. don’t you think it would be increased tenfold by having to constantly repeat your story under scrutiny of people you’re afraid won’t believe you, not to mention the danger of your rapist seeking revenge? why would any woman, man, any person want to bring that upon themselves?
two percent of rape accusations are concluded to be false; as many as one in four women has been raped. it’s impossible to conclude an actual percentage regarding this because of the strong stigma that surrounds the admittance of being raped. as if being a victim of this heinous crime is actually a crime itself. once again, though, women who are raped never do anything to deserve it, no matter how they dress or what career they hold. even prostitutes can be raped—no, it isn’t shoplifting.
our culture of victim-blaming and misogyny-mongering makes it acceptable to make jokes such as the one i cited above (the one-liner “if you rape a prosititute, is it considered shoplifting?”). well-meaning people who employ such callous humor argue that if they don’t make these jokes in front of rape victims, then they aren’t doing any harm. consider this, though: your words don’t escape into a void. rather, they serve to promote the victim-blaming ideas that make it so hard for victims to come forward. plus, it’s impossible to know whether you are in the presence of a rape victim. this idea holds true with gay people or any other minority group you might mock.
in my opinion, the worst part of this whole situation is the hatred directed at people who speak out on behalf of rape victims and other victimized groups. “bitchy feminists” are merely trying to help people, and though i don’t consider myself a bitch, by denouncing the ideas of women and men who support equality, you make this world a worse place for everyone. and in response to ignorant misogynists (who don’t even know what that word means), i say make your own fucking sandwich and get out of antoine dodson’s sister’s bed.sincerely,a person who is tired of your bullshit.
i love being a bitchy feminist.
This is everything I’ve been trying to say ever.
I can’t even.
It’s the one they’ve been running commercials for recently, about immigrants and border patrols and the vigilantes who kill people around the border.
The sheriff is Latina, short, and a woman. Her four deputies are white, tall, and men. They don’t take her seriously. They don’t listen to her, they don’t take her seriously, and they don’t respect her. Why? Because she’s a WOMAN of HISPANIC origin. People piss me off.
Also. They just got to a point where they found a family that a guy was hiding. He had locked them in a stable and taken the mother and locked her in a different one. Of course, he raped her. Of course he did. Because that’s what people do? No. WHAT THE FUCK, GUYS.
I’m baking a cake now to decorate with fondant. I’m so excited!! I hope it turns out alright.
It’ll be cool to see how it works out.
OXFORD COMMAS: YES OR NO?
I, personally, only use them around 35% of the time due to laziness. It may only take .00001 seconds to type but, in that same amount of time, I could easily lose my thought train and why bother proofreading for clarity?
I am a comma geek. Things my mother drilled into my head as a child. I may perhaps overuse them. Perhaps.
If you don’t use them, I judge you.