I am a mid-twenties avid intersectional feminist, advocate, fighter, counselor, and friend. I will be graduating from Bucknell University in May with degrees in Psychology and Women’s & Gender Studies. I work with survivors of sexual assault and other trauma, and I fix computers for a living.
I often blog about what it is like to live at the intersections of a few different mental illnesses, queerness, and sexuality, along with posts about sexism, racism, rape culture, and LGBT rights. There is a trigger warning for these on my entire blog. You will see posts about depression, eating disorders, PTSD, panic disorder, and fat activism. This has been my safe space for four years now, and I reserve the right to ask you to leave it if necessary.
And that’s another one. Parents saying “why does she know what a penis is?” and they’re simply horrified. But they’re my kids and i’ll totes teach them any words for anything I want. That’s something all parents have been able to do since humans invented language. Haha. Why are people so into giving advice the second we reproduce? This is why I prefer child free people. When they give advice it’s either useful or not done in a preachy way.
Children who know the correct names for their body parts are less susceptible to sexual predators. They are less likely to be tricked into “games” with “cutesy” names and have the vocabulary they need to recognize and report “grooming” behavior (i.e,. actions deliberately undertaken with the aim of befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, to lower the child’s inhibitions in preparation for sexual activity with the child, or exploitation).
I wonder if it’s maybe because, being child free, we don’t REALLY know what we’re talking about, we’re just trying to help, not be smug assholes telling you what to do with your own kids. Chances are, as the parent in the equation, you know better.