Q: How do I masturbate?
Q: Can masturbation cause you to become numb during sex?
A: Generally speaking no. In fact for some people masturbating using a vibrator especially state that they’re more sensitive over time. However, if you use the same technique (especially if it has a lot of force to it) over and over you can become trained to that technique. It’s better to use different techniques, positions, hardness, speed, and toys so that your body doesn’t become too used to one thing. I discuss different masturbation techniques in my post, Beginner’s Guide to Masturbation. I also talk about how to increase genital sensitivity here.
Q: Is there anything wrong with masturbating a lot?
A: The only time when masturbation is a problem is if it keeps you from doing things you need to do and you masturbate even when you don’t want to, at which point it is an addiction. Some people become sore after a lot of masturbation, sometimes using a bit of water based lube can help, but otherwise just know your limits. Masturbating a lot in no way decreases your sensitivity or makes your vagina “loose”. Especially when you’re a teen or young adult you may find yourself masturbating frequently, maybe multiple times a day. That’s healthy and isn’t something you have to worry about. Everyone is different, some people don’t masturbate at all, some people masturbate once a month, some people masturbate once a week, some people masturbate daily, some people masturbate multiple times a day. Depending on your age and hormones the rate may go up for a while then down for a while and back up for a while. Don’t worry too much about it unless it severely affects your life.
Q: I’m under age. How do I get a vibrator?
A: Usually the easiest way to get a vibrator when you’re underage/don’t have your own money source is buying something random that vibrates and using that. Just make sure to keep it clean and cover it either with a condom or non microwavable saran wrap. You can also use a shower head directed at your clitoris (not your vagina, since that can be unhealthy). There is a mini vibrator trojan makes that I’ve heard is good and inexpensive and easy to find in drug stores, so if you have any money you could get that. If you have more money and either a bank account with a debit card or get a pre paid credit card online you can buy toys online which arrive in regular boxes with no indication that sex toys are inside. Some sex stores don’t card, so you could try to sneak in and buy one there as well. For more advice see this post.
Q: Is it safe to masturbate with this random phallic or vibrating object?
A: As long as any object you insert doesn’t have any sharp edges, and you keep it clean and use a barrier like a condom or non-microwavable saran wrap you should be fine. Always be careful with anything you insert, be sure to not be too rough especially with objects that have no give. If it starts to hurt, stop. For more advice see this post.
Q: How do you masturbate without touching yourself?
A: by rubbing your genitals on something or masturbating over a layer or so of clothing.
you can either scoot back and forth on a flat surface like a chair with your legs spread and labia against the surface, or you can put a pillow between your legs while lying down on your side or stomach, rubbing your thighs together and grinding your crotch against the pillow. Also, some people can masturbate rubbing their vulva against a bed while lying on their stomach but that angle is difficult for some people to achieve. It helps if you use the back of your hand or a pillow.
You can rub your genitalia against a bed or in between a couple of pillows,cushions or blanket.
Q: I’m new to sex toys, how do I choose what to buy and how do I take care of them?
A: Here’s what to look for when buying a vibrator, Here’s what to look for when buying a toy to make sure that it’s safe, Here’s how to clean your toy, Silicone is really the safest and best material, and here’s why, if it’s dildos you’re looking for here’s a good guide.
Sex toy health and care post coming soon
What to look for in a toy post coming soon
Q: I want to get a sex toy and have no clue where to begin. Help?
Insertable Sex Toys (coming soon)
Masturbator Toys (coming soon)
How to use certain sex toys (coming soon)
Q: What kind of lube should I use?
Q: How do I do gender play?
Q: I’m disabled, are there any aids or toys that can make sex easier?
A: Yes there are (post coming soon)
More editing of FAQ categories! If you have any questions or comments on posts that are in the works or anything that should be added to this section let me know!